So, yesterday was two of my kids’ birthdays. Yes, they are born on the same day, just 4 years apart.
My youngest just turned 8. As I celebrate the beginning of her life each year, I also rejoice in the saving of mine. I almost died giving birth to her and there were so many lessons learned from a near death experience. I know it sounds dramatic, but it is true. Truthfully, I almost died twice after her birth; once on her birthday and the next time two weeks later. Without reliving all the details, unbeknownst to me she was supposed twin. When she was born there was a whole other placenta still inside that no one knew about. They didn’t know about it for days, and then they couldn’t get it out for months.
The Near Death Experience
After she was born, I lost lots of blood and consciousness. As I drifted in and out of consciousness I could hear the doctors and nurses shouting my name. I wanted them to be quiet. I wanted to stay where I was, where it was quiet and peaceful. Where my body was warm and relaxed. My experience is like so many others. I was truly content for the first time in my entire life. I had peace like I’ve never known in my day to day life. I needed nothing else. It was refreshing. I wanted to stay forever.
But they kept shouting at me. “Trish” they would call. As I would come to for just a second, they would tell me that my baby was OK. “What baby?” I would ask. I had no idea what they were talking about.
The Hubs Saved My Life, Twice.
My husband saved my life, twice. He was relentless, he didn’t give up on figuring out my problem for me when no one else was even trying, including my trusted medical professionals.
The second time I was in the yard with my baby. It was two weeks later. I still looked pregnant because with an extra placenta in my uterus my body thought I still was. I was tired, frustrated and had a few surgeries to remove the foreigner, but it was woven into the lining and wouldn’t budge. I heard a pop and then blood everywhere for a long time. I told the hubs and he called the ambulance before I could figure out what I was going to do. I was going down again. This time it wasn’t like the first. I lost tons of blood and passed out, but I did not have the same marvelous experience like I had the first time. That is how I knew how special it was. I thought it was special as it happened, but knew it was by comparison.
In a January, Buffalo snowstorm, the hubs drove me to the hospital for what would become my final, successful surgery. I was on the road to recovery.
Lessons Learned from a Near Death Experience:
I Do Not Fear Death, I Welcome It.
I don’t want to die or anything, I just am not afraid to die. Did you know that the fear of death is one of the most common fears people have, especially as they age? There is nothing to fear.
The Only Important Thing in Life Is Love.
The truth is, I am not that good at relationships. Achievement, now that I am good at. Relationships, not so much. I would spend all day by myself reading or with my computer. I am a great wife and mom, but a little bit too much in my own head. I am sure some of you can relate. Since my near death experience, I have prioritized my relationships with my husband, my children, my friends. I go out of my way to get out of my head and into my relationships. I have gotten quite good at it.
I Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
None of it matters. It really doesn’t. I have had some SUPER hard stuff happen to me in the past few years and I have handled it all like a champ. I treat everything as a learning experience and use it to thrive. Messy houses, money the ebbs and flows, trust that is broken, friends that don’t show up, none of it really matters. I can stay in peace and let it all unfold. I know on the other side, peace is mine, so I might as well claim it here.
My Brain is My Most Useful Resource.
First of all, any time the brain is deprived of blood and oxygen is takes a beating. As a professional I knew that and I knew I had to get it back on track. Neurofeedback was pivotal in helping me to do so. Also, I wanted that peaceful feeling I had when I was out. Through research I determined that Neurofeedback could help me accomplish that feeling again too. Neuro-meditation, my now favor thing to do, has helped me obtain that feeling again, to a degree, and have it linger in my life at low levels all the time.
I love helping people improve theirs brain’s performance to improve their quality of life. I have discovered that my brain is the worldly possession that I treasure most. Material possessions come and go, people come and go, it all comes and goes.
My state of mind is the only thing I have. The only thing that is truly mine to keep. My state of mind is perpetuated by my brain. I can control my brain to control my mind to have the peace I want so badly.
That is why I am so fond of Neurofeedback training. It helps people gain control of their brains and thus their minds and bodies. This is a thing that so many have no control over. They are letting their external world run the show by controlling their brains. Neurofeedback is the thing that can intercede and stop that madness that is happening for so many people.
Control Your Brain Before Your Brain Controls You
This has become my mantra. It resonates with my soul. Before my experience, my brain controlled me. I would work all the time. I would be wrapped up in my thoughts and not my life. I want people to find the peace that I found through my Near Death Experience without having to have one themselves.