Many women don’t even know what a boundary is, nevermind how to set boundaries to recover from porn or sex addiction. This is super important in any relationship. However, boundaries are ESSENTIAL in recovery from porn use and sex addiction. Let me tell you how and why you need to set boundaries.
Why Set Boundaries to Recover from Porn Or Sex Addiction?
Boundaries help both you and your partner know what behaviors are acceptable and when. I work with so many women who say that their husband is sexual with them, and unfortunately other women, all the time. As you reboot your relationship boundaries tell you and him what behaviors are OK and which ones are not. In this example, sexual behavior toward other women… simply never OK. The boundary is no flirting with or checking out other women. Now, what about sexual behavior with you? Being overly sexual when you are making dinner, not OK. Waking you up at 4 am to have sex, not OK. Asking you if you’d like to spend time together in the bedroom tonight, perfectly fine. Great, even. Boundaries!
How to Set Boundaries to Recover from Porn or Sex Addiction.
First, you have to determine any behavior that you deem not cool. Behaviors especially regarding sex and intimacy. This could be very personal for you. Search your heart, you will find where boundaries need to be set. Another way you can approach it is to take notice of how you feel about your man’s behaviors across the next week. When you become irritated, annoyed, or frustrated with your man’s behavior, that might be a place for a boundary. In this video, I tell a funny story of a boundary I had to set with my husband. It felt strange to do, but you will see why it makes sense.
I am a Sex Addiction Recovery Coach and specialize in helping women whose husband’s are hooked into a porn habit that is at risk of destroying your family. Porn can destroy your family. Don’t believe it? Read my post on the real dangers of porn. Science shows that porn is creeping in as the most worrisome addiction for our generation.
As a Sex Addiction Recovery Coach, I would love to help you and your man rebuild your relationship is it has been torn apart by porn use or sex addiction. Find out more about my program HERE.
